I reposted an article on Facebook about moms putting on their swimsuits and getting out with their kids. Instead of hiding in the back ground ashamed of a body they aren’t super happy with.
There are some days when that is easier than others. Sometimes the negative self talk can really mess with you and keep you from interacting or participating in life.
We can place part of the blame for body shaming on the media: “It’s not enough to be skinny anymore — now you need to have visible ab muscles, super-toned yoga shoulders, a skinny waist and other social media-manifested benchmarks such as the ‘thigh gap,’” says Chicago-based body-image expert Leslie Goldman.
Here are 6 ways to acknowledge the self-talk, work through it, and get past it.
1. Focus on the tangible.
Thoughts are just that, thoughts. Sometimes our perception of ourselves hazes reality. When you find that your are hating on yourself, stop, and focus on what you ‘can do’ rather than what you ‘are.’
I know a common phrase in my vocabulary is ‘I’m a hot mess!’ Sometimes is jokingly, but others that’s exactly what I feel like I am. So, in that situation, take a moment and concentrating on being strong 💪 or what I have accomplished that day ✅ can change the mindset and reminding me of what I can do!
Chances are the things you can do have nothing to do with your dress size. 😉
2. Put Thoughts in Their Place
It isn’t easy, but it’s helpful to reframe the concept of thoughts, which takes away some of their power to make us feel bad about ourselves, says Holly Parker, Ph.D., a psychotherapist at the Edith Nourse Rogers Memorial Veterans Hospital in Bedford, Massachusetts, Harvard University lecturer and author of When Reality Bites: How Denial Helps and What to Do When It Hurts.
To help people reframe how they view the thoughts that enter their minds, Parker suggests visualizing that you’re walking through a grocery store and looking at all the products. “Do you buy everything? No,” she says. “You might pull something off a shelf, look at it and then put it back. Try thinking about thoughts in same way.” Not all thoughts are relevant or worth your attention, practice paying closer attention to your inner dialogue and decide what is truly relevant for you.
3. Separate ‘Thought’ from ‘Judgement’
Most of us are wired to accept our negative thoughts without question but scrutinize and doubt positive ones, Parker says. So when you look in the mirror and think, “I’m gross,” it can feel like you’re stating a fact, but you’re not. Being mindful helps you realize you’re making a judgment, not stating a reality.
4. Don’t Ignore the Negaive Self-Talk
If someone feels sad and another person tells him or her to stop being so negative, Parker continues, “It’s invalidating and can make you feel worse and unheard.” Rather than trying to silence that negative voice, acknowledge that the thought came up, she says. “Changing how [people] talk to themselves is about promoting more accuracy and self-compassion, because negative labels or statements can feel like facts when they’re not.”
5. Stop Comparing Yourself
I know what I just said about acknowledging negative self-talk, but you need to stop lamenting, “Why don’t I look like Beyonce/Taylor Swift/(insert celebrity here)?”
For one thing, celebs, Instagram influencers, and even your Facebook friends who post “thinspiration” selfies on the reg, have learned how to position themselves in photos just right, so you’re seeing them at their absolute best. Factor in Photoshop, filters and editing, and you’ve got a recipe for body envy.
Every person is on their own body journey, you are not them, so your journey does not and will never look like their’s. So comparission is asinine, it’s 🍎 to 🍊
6. Be a Friend to Yourself.
We tolerate talk from ourselves that we would never tolerate from another person. Think of it this way, the comments you make to yourself, would you look another person in the eye and say it to them?! Would you call your grandmother a ‘fat pig’ for eating an extra slice of pizza? I wouldn’t (my grandma would whip me with whatever hard object was in reach 😉)
It isn’t easy to retrain the brain to be compassionate and reasonable after a lifelong barrage of media and social pressure about how we look. But, everyday practice will help you become, and remain, aware of how you treat yourself on a daily basis.
If you are working on fitness and/or nutrition goals recognize your progress, even the little wins, each day. Find an accountability partner or group that can help you stay motivated on the days when your self-critiques are la little harsher than they should be.
See you on the other side!!
I have been waiting for this since the original version came out!!
Love my morning coffee and I love my Shakeology. Last year the two were COMBINED!!!! 😍
But, alas, I could not have it because the main protein was whey, and my stomach and whey do not get along 🤢.
I have been finishing up my Vegan Chocolate Shakeology and now my order of Cafe’ Latte’ is on its way 😁
There are a lot of meal replacement and protein shakes available to us now. And the science behind their development has made vegan versions SO much better in flavor and texture that even non-vegans are switching to vegan proteins for the ease in digestion and increase in plant based protein (i.e. Extra veggies!).
I love this product for myriad reasons, the main one is convenience. I get a variety of produce that I don’t usually buy at the store or would have to special order. I don’t have to think about what is going into the blender to give me a great flavor and texture, that has already been done in the Shakeology labs. As a parent, it allows me to take care of me quickly, with little effort, while I am busy holding the fort down.
Here’s a little insight into what goes into Shakeology.
This is the ingredient list for Vegan Chocolate Shakeology. It is a better quality photo of all the ingredients, so imagine no cacao and instead natural coffee flavors!
Every person is different, so their nutritional needs are different. There is never a one-size-fits-all model, but there are always better starting points. Many people forget that you cannot out workout a crappy diet, and a true “diet” is not a temporary thing that you do to look good for an event. A true “Diet” is what you are stuffing in your face on a daily basis. Is what you are eating helping you with your goals or holding you back from what you want?!?!
If you need help getting your health on track, this is a great place to start.
Leave me a comment below or find me on Facebook and Instagram. Let me know where you are at, what are your goals? What is easy for you, what are your struggles? The journey is real and it doesn’t have to be alone!
As always, I’ll see you on the other side!
“EAT YOUR VEGETABLES!”
We have all heard or said the phrase a million times in our lives.
We all know that produce is good for us, but many people don’t always know “WHY”
I do a lot of research when I am highlighting my favorite foods, and come across many articles that give the information so much better than I could write it. The following is a portion of one such article written by Trevor Thieme C.S.C.S. A link to Full article below.
… Odds are you, [like many people, have ignored advice to “eat your veggies” at some point or] for even your entire life. Your mom nagged you about eating your broccoli and Brussels sprouts. Your doctor advises you to “eat the rainbow.” And you likely have at least one vegan friend who wants to convert you — or at the very least replace some of the meat in your largely carnivorous diet with plants. Even Michelle Obama has got in on the act, imploring you and every other American to eat more fruits and veggies. And like Murphy (and most other Americans), odds are you don’t listen: Only 1 in 10 people in the United States eat the recommended five servings of fruits and vegetables a day, according to a report from the CDC.
That’s a problem. “If you’re not eating at least two servings of fruits and three servings of vegetables per day, you’re not building ‘foundational health,’ which is key for preventing disease and supporting athletic performance,” says Susan Kleiner, PhD, R.D., author of The Powerfood Nutrition Plan. If she had her way, you’d eat eight servings.
While nutritionists have long known about the athletic advantages of increasing protein intake, they’re only just beginning to comprehend the fitness benefits of eating more phytonutrients — bioactive (i.e., body-boosting) compounds found in fruits, vegetables, grains, and other “phyto” (plant) foods. …
“One of the most exciting benefits of phytonutrients is their strong antioxidant potential, disarming free radicals that wreak havoc in the body,” says Kleiner. “But it’s also bigger than that—scientists are learning that some phytonutrients seem go deep into the genetic matrix, turning on and off genes that protect us from disease development.”
That potential of phytonutrients to bolster the immune system is hugely important for athletes, who often run themselves down through overtraining. “One of the biggest things that holds athletes back is getting sick, and research shows that some phytonutrients can act as prebiotics, stimulating the growth of bacteria in your gut, thus helping to boost immunity,” says Kleiner.
Polyphenols — found in abundance in green tea — are among them, according to Japanese researchers. …
But perhaps the greatest benefit of phytonutrients — especially as far as athletes are concerned — is their ability to fight exercise-induced inflammation. “The nature of training is to tear the body down, and the body is extraordinary in its ability to repair and rebuild its tissues to become stronger,” says Kleiner. “But part of that process involves an inflammatory response — inflammatory cells rush to the damaged tissue, heat it up, and begin repairing it.”
If you’ve ever felt sore a couple of days after a tough workout (a phenomenon known as delayed onset muscle soreness, or DOMS), you’ve felt the inflammatory process at work. A little inflammation is a good thing — it helps your muscles adapt to the demands of training (and you to become more powerful). “But if you don’t have enough anti-inflammatory factors in your body, the inflammation process can proceed unchecked, which can delay recovery,” says Kleiner.
Fortunately, you don’t have to eat every single plant to reap the benefits; you just have to eat a variety of them, according to Kleiner. “And by variety, I mean not only among food groups, but also within food groups,” she says. In other words, while you might love bananas, Amaranth, and Swiss chard, don’t just eat bananas, Amaranth, and Swiss chard. Becoming stuck in a dietary routine is just as detrimental as getting stuck in training rut.
Click for suggestions on what to eat to stay out of a food rut
In short, your mom, doctor, and vegan friend were right — you should eat a greater number and variety of colorful fruits and vegetables. “And whenever possible, skip pills for whole foods,” says Kleiner. “There’s a lot we have yet to discover about phytonutrients, but one thing we do know is that they’re more potent when they work synergistically with other nutrients in foods than when they’re taken [and working] alone.”
I will see you on the other side.
Many moms struggle with getting there core strength back after having kids. This is probably the question I get most from moms, “how do I get ‘this’ (grabbing ab skin) to go away?!?”
As a mom I get it, growing a human takes a toll on your body. It also took the better portion of a year to do it!!! So the first thing to remember is patience and consistency will be your friend. Also, I am not a medical doctor, so when you can start exercising again is between you and your Doc, every woman is different.
Here is a great interview with Jericho McMatthews, co-creator of Core De Force,an MMA styled, core building, sweat producing, endorphins releasing workout!
Jericho had her first child in April of 2015, so she has first hand experience of what it is like to go from post baby to athlete body.
As interviewed by Amy Klein
Q: When is a good time for a new mom to start getting in shape?
Jericho McMatthews: Obviously it depends on the doctor’s orders. If you have a vaginal delivery, it’s usually 2-4 weeks. If you have a C-section, it’s around six weeks. After having my son, I was the most deconditioned I’d been since I can remember. As a trainer I’d kept myself in peak condition—even during pregnancy. I was teaching roughly nine classes a week until my eighth month. I delivered six days past my due date and ended up with an unexpected C-section. I remember trying to sit up—I didn’t have the core strength, which was such a new feeling for me. After my first workout—a 30-minute high-intensity interval training (HIIT)—I cried. It was so emotional for me because I knew what I had ahead of me to get back into great physical shape. My body was telling me to start slower, so I modified when needed and my fitness came back fairly quickly.
Q: How can a new mom find the time and energy for working out?
Jericho McMatthews: I feel like those first several weeks are such a blur. You’re so exhausted, you’re trying to figure out a new schedule and a new groove to get into. What I would advise for new moms is to not focus on the scale or looking a certain way, rather to focus on being healthy and happy, along with the health and happiness of your baby. Focusing solely on the scale or shape of your body is just detrimental to the psyche.
Q: Do you think there’s a lot of pressure to get your body back?
Jericho McMatthews: Absolutely. There are so many unrealistic expectations placed on new moms to bounce back to their pre-baby body when every new mom’s journey and circumstances are so very different. It makes me sad to hear about women giving up on breastfeeding so they can go on a crazy diet to drop the pounds. Listen to your body and be patient with yourself—don’t beat yourself up if you don’t workout. If your baby is teething or has a fever you might have to miss your workout. Since your child is now your first priority, things are going to happen and you have to roll with it. Be flexible and do your best!
Q: With everything going on, why do you think a mom should try to get back in shape?
Jericho McMatthews: I think the most important thing about being strong is what it does for your confidence, your self-esteem. It’s a ripple effect that improves all areas of your life. Being in shape helps you sleep better, makes you happier from the inside out. Also, when so much of our youth is overweight, it’s extremely important to set an example. It’s a form of self-respect. Treating your body well, eating healthy food, and exercising are all ways of showing respect for yourself.
Q: Why is core work so important for new moms?
Jericho McMatthews: Those are the muscles that are the most deconditioned during pregnancy—they get stretched out. Your core is everything—it helps you with your posture, helps to prevent low-back pain, supports your pelvic area, but it’s the muscle group we lose the most during pregnancy, so that’s where we need to work to get back to where we were. Even women that don’t have C-sections will have weak pelvic muscles.
Some women believe that after giving birth they are damaged. But your entire body is connected and with a total body transformation program like CORE DE FORCE, you can get your body back in shape while having some fun. You just need to be patient and stick with it.
The program offers both cardio and resistance-training workouts, and we engage the core muscles with each move by focusing on core rotational movement. So, it’s really perfect for new moms who want to strengthen their core.
Q: And you can do CORE DE FORCE from your home?
Jericho McMatthews: Yes! Which is so helpful for new moms who struggle with getting to a gym and having to pay for daycare. At-home workouts is where it’s at for new moms who don’t have a lot of time, where they can’t go anywhere to do a workout. With Beachbody On Demand, there are so many options for quick, effective workouts new moms can do at home.
Q: How does CORE DE FORCE strengthen the core, specifically?
Jericho McMatthews: Our core extends way beyond our “abs” and has three-dimensional depth and functional movement in all three planes of motion. Mixed martial arts is one of the best ways to train and strengthen the entire core, since striking combinations require full-body rotation with force generated by the core. We focus and emphasize this type of work in CORE DE FORCE along with isolated core exercises that build functional strength from the inside out.
Q: Is it really possible to get your body “back?”
Jericho McMatthews: Yes, but patience is key. There are many factors that play an important role in weight loss for new moms, which vary from person to person. Hormones, genetics, and lifestyle can make a huge difference in the process. Being sleep-deprived produces more cortisol, which is the stress hormone that makes your body hang onto weight. But it is possible. You do the best you can, and in a lot of cases, your body might not look exactly the same. I hope women can be okay with that—because in the end, you have a beautiful child and that’s comparable to nothing!
Just remember to keep moving and listen to your body, rest is just as important to your health as good food and exercise!
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See you on the other side!!